Jim’s Daily Rant. Lost In The Desert Of Taint.

This Rant will begin as a memory of mine that changed my life forever. I hope I don’t bore you in the memory walk, but I need to do it this way to share a powerful gift for you that will be needed in this time of Chaos. It is the only way I can help you experience it for yourself the unknown you are heading into. I hope you use my wife's holdout card.

In starting let me share two thoughts. The first is that Dr. Phil says we all have moments that change our life forever. One for me was the night my wife and I were tricked into a blind date neither of us wanted.

The second thought is the ending in the movie Good Will Hunting. The main character had trust issues that held him back from being in love. His shrink said “let me speed it up for you. You aren’t perfect and neither is she. But the question is are you perfect for each other?”

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Our Backgrounds were similar. I was a 35 year old several months out of a divorce afraid to date. I was a corporate controller with heavy business experience and into computer systems. I did turn-arounds or fast growth business development. I spent a lot of time dealing with people.

Betty was a 30 year old single mother of two, three years out of divorce. She began working for the County School Board as a high school student worker in Payroll. Ten years later she transferred to another department for money. She had one college course under her belt – Cobol. That was a programming language for writing software for business applications. It taught her how the computer thinks and to think like the computer thinks.

Two years before I met her the Payroll Supervisor became ill and suddenly retired leaving her department, that spent 80% of their funds, a flying plane without a pilot. The School board had two options: transfer a current accountant or a current programmer in. Apparently they realized both were missing understanding and training that would take time to get. Instead they surprised Betty by moving her into the position because she had a firm hand on the entire operation. She too spent a lot of time dealing with staff and several thousand personnel.

Betty and I were instructed to meet in a Sears Tire Store across from a crowded nightclub.

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The Tire Store.  We each had a 40 minute notice to get there. I was 10 minutes late. Her opening words stunned me! As I approached, she gave me a beautiful smile and said “You’re late.” I had never received an opening gambit like that, instantly putting me on the defensive. I immediately knew she was most confident and the ruler of her domain. Wow!

We crossed the street, had a beer, danced a few dances and ended at a quiet corner table. We reintroduced ourselves in an unusual card game. For some reason we shared how we size up strangers, each laying one card at a time.

I held a hand of first spotting their personalities so I could talk in their comfort zone. Then were they happy or sad in life, prone to lying and finally self medicating with alcohol or drugs? The lying and medicating was for self protection. I didn’t want them to steal my energy (in the long run) and give back nothing.

She shocked me the second time by playing her first card, she classed them as Givers or Takers. That one process covered my entire hand!

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Her Hold-Out Card was never played until we were married for several years. I caution you on how programmers are trained to use their own defined terms so later on when you see them you immediately know what that information is or holds, much like Que cards. Also we both knew this conversation was figurative only. Her holdout card was her qualification for a prospective husband but her measuring procedure fits all humans.

When she played her “Taint Card”, it was an unknown term to me. She defined it as the inch of skin between a woman’s anus and the Promised land, 'cause 'taint either. The test was to determine if he was stuck in either the Taint or beyond. If so that was because some men, like her first husband, hadn’t learned that their world is what they chose it to be and intentionally created; that no one else can create it for them. If they knew this they would always choose the Promised Land. So if they appeared to be lost or too often wallering in shit, they were disqualified.

I admit I have faults with two being slow and stupid, so it took me a long time to understand her system. Now mind you, she didn’t just blurt this out all at ounce. Some of the depth of it I had to pull out of her head over time. But I eventually did and it changed me forever.

In order to meet her daily standards, I had to focus the majority of my thoughts and energy on creating happiness in her life, a job I grew to relish. I later discovered that because I too am in her universe it made me happy as well.

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Comes Now Today In Your World.

Trump isn’t going to make your world happy because only you can create happiness. You stand at a crossroad to remain wallering in shit or focus your thoughts on co-creating a universe of the Promised Land for you and yours. But that upgrade must be of your own conscious thoughts and energy. You must actively create it.

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Imitation Game – No One Can Imagine. (Correct Link)

“Sometimes it’s the people that know and imagine things odd who do the things no one can imagine.” Alan Turing (The Imitation Game.)